We all need to be able to feel anger in order to function as healthy human beings. 

Problems arise when anger is masked, hidden or thought of as destructive or negative. 

If left unexpressed, anger can build and present itself as rage which often feels out of control, or it may be internalised and experienced as guilt, depression, helplessness or incompetence which may result in self-destruction.

HOW CAN COUNSELLING HELP WITH ANGER? 

When working with someone who is experiencing difficulties with anger I can help them to recognise their different levels of anger and learn ways in which to express their anger in a controlled manner. 

I can also help the individual to rate their own anger and recognise what is healthy anger and what is unhealthy anger. 

Often people mistake their anger for rage.  In my opinion, the difference between these is the level of control that someone feels when expressing the emotion.  Once someone is able to understand what level their anger is at we can work together to find ways of safely expressing their anger when it is still at a controllable level.

I can also work with someone to help them to understand where their negative views of anger have come from by challenging the views they hold about anger and helping them to recognise the emotions which lie underneath their anger.