WHAT IS PERFECTIONISM?
When someone constantly strives for perfection they run the risk of judging their own self worth by their performance or success. This means that, should they make a mistake or fail to do something they believe that they have failed as a person.
WHAT COUNSELLING CAN HELP WITH
The roots of perfectionism are often in childhood. An example of this would be the parents who say 'you could have done better' or, at the other extreme, the parents who constantly praise their child.
HOW DO I RECOGNISE IF I'M A PERFECTIONIST?
Do you have extremely high expectations of yourself? Are your high standards unachievable? Are you a workaholic? Do you constantly criticise yourself? Do you have high expectations of others? Are you fearful that you are going to fail at things? Do you feel as though you're never good enough?
If you can recognise yourself in these questions then the chances are you're on the road to being a Perfectionist.
HOW CAN COUNSELLING HELP WITH PERFECTIONISM?
When I recognise the traits of perfectionism in someone I will encourage them to explore and challenge their beliefs behind their expectations.
By challenging these negative self-beliefs the individual is able to gradually understand the pattern of behaviour and find more accommodating ways of thinking.
I can also help someone to explore the messages that they received as a child which may have led to their need to achieve perfection is all that they do.